You have gone over it many times, and the question still feels unanswered.
Understand why doubts about your relationship keep coming back
Caring about your relationship is not the problem. Reflect on unwanted doubts, partner focus, checking, and reassurance seeking, then see a free first reading of your answers. This check-in will not tell you whether to stay or leave.
- Words for the doubts you keep having
- Six areas linked to real situations
- A starting point for support or assessment
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The part of relationship doubt that others may not see
A small flaw in your partner, or a missing feeling, takes over your attention.
Reassurance helps for a moment, and then the same doubt returns.
You may recognize several of these experiences, one, or none. Doubts are common in close relationships, and having them is not proof that something is wrong.
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Six perspectives on relationship doubt
Doubts about your feelings and the relationship
Unwanted, repeated doubts about whether you love your partner, whether they love you, or whether this is the right relationship.
Preoccupation with a partner’s perceived flaws
Attention that keeps returning to a partner’s appearance, intelligence, personality, or social skills, followed by distress about what it means.
Checking feelings and comparing
Monitoring your own feelings or attraction, testing your reactions, and comparing your relationship with other people’s or with past ones.
Reassurance seeking and confessing
Asking a partner, friends, or the internet to settle a doubt, or confessing doubts so you feel you are being honest.
Avoidance and waiting for certainty
Holding back from closeness, commitment decisions, or situations that trigger doubt, or waiting for a certain feeling before moving forward.
Impact on daily life and the relationship
Time, focus, rest, and closeness lost to relationship doubts and the steps taken to manage them.
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From recurring doubts to a clearer next step
Describe what happens
Answer 48 original experience questions and 14 unscored questions about context and needs.
Read your free preview
See which descriptions fit your answers more closely and which fit less well.
Choose useful detail
Use the free help information or choose the optional paid report for a fuller explanation and support conversation.
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Information you can use beyond the result page
A six-area profile that separates doubts, partner focus, and the responses that follow
Answer evidence alongside daily impact, context, and uncertainty
Plain language for explaining the pattern and questions for an OCD-informed clinician
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Who this reflection is for
- You are an adult answering about your own current or recent relationship.
- You want to understand recurring doubts about a partner or relationship, whether you are curious, unsure, or already seeking support.
- If you feel afraid of your partner or unsafe at home, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 instead of treating this as OCD.
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Original questions with transparent boundaries
48 questions form six descriptive scores; 14 context answers personalize the interpretation without changing the scores. The questionnaire is not the ROCI, the PROCSI, or the Y-BOCS, and it cannot diagnose OCD or tell you whether to stay in a relationship. OCD is diagnosed by a qualified clinician, who can also discuss treatment options such as exposure and response prevention (ERP).
62 questions · 6 areas · About 8–12 minutes
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Questions before you begin
What is relationship OCD, or ROCD?
Relationship OCD, often shortened to ROCD, describes OCD in which unwanted doubts center on a romantic relationship: whether you love your partner, whether they love you, whether this is the right relationship, or whether a partner’s perceived flaws matter too much. People may respond by checking their feelings, comparing, seeking reassurance, confessing doubts, or avoiding closeness and decisions. It is not a separate diagnosis; a clinician considers it as part of an OCD assessment, alongside other possible explanations.
Do my doubts mean I do not love my partner?
Not necessarily. Doubts are common in close relationships, and in OCD they often attach to what matters most to you. This self-check cannot tell you whether you love your partner, whether the relationship is right for you, or whether you should stay or leave. It describes how doubts show up and what they cost you, so that you can discuss them with someone qualified.
Is this an OCD diagnosis or a ROCI score?
No. It uses 48 original reflection questions across six descriptive areas and 14 unscored context questions. It does not reproduce or score the ROCI, the PROCSI, the Y-BOCS, or any other clinical scale, and it cannot tell you whether you have OCD. A qualified clinician makes that assessment.
How is relationship OCD different from real relationship problems?
Every relationship has real issues worth discussing, and some doubts are accurate signals, especially when there is disrespect, control, threats, or violence. The questions here focus on doubts that feel unwanted, keep returning despite answers, and take up time or cause distress out of proportion to what is actually happening. If you feel afraid of your partner or unsafe at home, that is not something to treat as OCD: the National Domestic Violence Hotline (1-800-799-7233, or text START to 88788) offers confidential support.
What kind of help is used for OCD?
Exposure and response prevention (ERP), a form of cognitive behavioral therapy, is the evidence-based psychological treatment for OCD, and medication is sometimes used as well. ERP should be planned with a therapist trained in treating OCD. Some couples also find it useful to involve a partner in sessions. This report does not deliver ERP or decide which treatment is right for you; it can help you prepare questions to ask a professional.
Is the test free, and do I need the paid report to get help?
The questions and initial preview are free. You can choose a paid full report to read online and download as a PDF. You never need to buy a report to contact a clinician or read the free help information.